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It’s been a little minute since last we typed, but this is not an apology.
I have been struggling a bit with feeling overwhelmed with the whole ‘adult child living with me’ thing. I love my kids. You know I do, but they are adults now, and I don’t necessarily love living with them – especially not in a space that’s this perfectly designed for *one*. My studio is his bedroom, so my work flow has been all out of whack. I’m not getting my requisite amount of solitude.Etc. etc. Insert list of ways this is challenging here.
This is life, right? We adapt. We overcome. At least, that’s what I do. You, too, right?
The kiddo is moving out at the end of this month. The week before he moves out, another kiddo is coming for a visit from out of town with his fiance in tow. It’s going to be an intense week – so full of goodness, but also full of family in close proximity even less space & time. And then? I’ll have my space back, and I’ll be able to reclaim my creative practice, and reassert the schedule that works for me.
Yes, I’m counting the days. You bet I am.
I know that I am extremely lucky to have the kind of relationship I have with my kids, and I want you to know that I am *incredibly* grateful. I know that it’s uncommon for moms to talk about how much they’d rather *not* live with their kids. I know there’s a lot of shame that goes along with meeting one’s needs and establishing (and protecting) one’s boundaries. Moms are supposed to experience paroxysms of joy over the presence of their adult children, right? We’re supposed to do gleeful jigs and COOK ALL THE THINGS and hug the stuffing out of our adult kids as often as we are able.
And *I am that mom* when there is enough time and space between visits. I’m that mom when I haven’t been in close proximity for an extended period of time, like I have been this past year – this intense year of orbiting an adult child, of being present to and accessible at the drop of a hat while he negotiates his reentry into the world after a serious & terrifying break with reality.
Mental illness is no joke.
It impacts the one who has it, and it impacts the ones who love the one who has it. We are blessed that my son is now stable and able to move into his own place. We’re *so* lucky that the end of our cohabitation is nigh, that he and I have successfully gotten through it, and that our relationship is still solid. I’m all kinds of full of gratitude for all the ways this has grown us both, and all the light it has shed on how far I’ve come in the self-care department.
This is the real ‘thing one’ for realsies.
I am a fierce mom, and I am devoted to the well-being of my children. I am also no longer that person who gives up everything and spends her all on other people. I reserve some for myself. I put myself *first*. I know the rightness of that. I know the value of that, and how much better off all my people are as a result.
I have found a few resources to aid me in my guitar practice, and I wanted to share them with you.
First of all, this lovely hardwood guitar stand is gorgeous & doesn’t take up a whole lot of space.
And YouTube, man. So much goodness on YouTube!
The first song I’ve learned to play is “What’s Up” by 4 Non Blondes. I played & sang it through for an audience of one this week – my kiddo, Jeremy, who is my musical inspiration. I’m not ready to play for anyone else just yet, but I promise that I’ll let you know as soon as I am.
Here’s the video that helped me learn the song.
This starts on August 11th, and I could NOT BE MORE STOKED.
This is my new microphone. It is, apparently, the official microphone of podcasters everywhere.
Yes, that’s a teaser.
No, I’m not telling you anymore. You’ll just have to stay tuned.
I may not have been writing much, but I am arting a metric butt tonne. Here are a few peeks into my journaling process.
And that’s it for this week’s edition of Friday Five! I hope you enjoyed this peek into what’s delighting & inspiring me this week. Have a beautiful weekend and I’ll see you back here soon. <3