Friday Five – Fierce Mama, Fierce Self-Care, Fierce Art

Welcome to this week’s edition of Friday Five! Five things that are rocking my poptarts! Good things. Moving things. Things that restore my faith in humanity, or my faith in myself. Artsy things! Nerdy things! ALL THE LOVELY THINGS!* If you’d like to get my blog in your inbox, click here. If you’d rather just get my weekly newsletter (with a round up of my blog posts included in link form + subscriber perks, including discounts), click here.

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Thing One

It’s been a little minute since last we typed, but this is not an apology.

I have been struggling a bit with feeling overwhelmed with the whole ‘adult child living with me’ thing. I love my kids. You know I do, but they are adults now, and I don’t necessarily love living with them – especially not in a space that’s this perfectly designed for *one*. My studio is his bedroom, so my work flow has been all out of whack. I’m not getting my requisite amount of solitude.Etc. etc. Insert list of ways this is challenging here.

This is life, right? We adapt. We overcome. At least, that’s what I do. You, too, right?

The kiddo is moving out at the end of this month. The week before he moves out, another kiddo is coming for a visit from out of town with his fiance in tow. It’s going to be an intense week – so full of goodness, but also full of family in close proximity even less space & time. And then? I’ll have my space back, and I’ll be able to reclaim my creative practice, and reassert the schedule that works for me.

Yes, I’m counting the days. You bet I am.

I know that I am extremely lucky to have the kind of relationship I have with my kids, and I want you to know that I am *incredibly* grateful. I know that it’s uncommon for moms to talk about how much they’d rather *not* live with their kids. I know there’s a lot of shame that goes along with meeting one’s needs and establishing (and protecting) one’s boundaries. Moms are supposed to experience paroxysms of joy over the presence of their adult children, right? We’re supposed to do gleeful jigs and COOK ALL THE THINGS and hug the stuffing out of our adult kids as often as we are able.

And *I am that mom* when there is enough time and space between visits. I’m that mom when I haven’t been in close proximity for an extended period of time, like I have been this past year – this intense year of orbiting an adult child, of being present to and accessible at the drop of a hat while he negotiates his reentry into the world after a serious & terrifying break with reality.

Mental illness is no joke.

It impacts the one who has it, and it impacts the ones who love the one who has it. We are blessed that my son is now stable and able to move into his own place. We’re *so* lucky that the end of our cohabitation is nigh, that he and I have successfully gotten through it, and that our relationship is still solid. I’m all kinds of full of gratitude for all the ways this has grown us both, and all the light it has shed on how far I’ve come in the self-care department.

This is the real ‘thing one’ for realsies. 

I am a fierce mom, and I am devoted to the well-being of my children. I am also no longer that person who gives up everything and spends her all on other people. I reserve some for myself. I put myself *first*. I know the rightness of that. I know the value of that, and how much better off all my people are as a result.

Thing Two

I have found a few resources to aid me in my guitar practice, and I wanted to share them with you.

First of all, this lovely hardwood guitar stand is gorgeous & doesn’t take up a whole lot of space.

Second of all, these two sites have oodles of chords for songs I’d love to learn how to play.

And YouTube, man. So much goodness on YouTube!

The first song I’ve learned to play is “What’s Up” by 4 Non Blondes. I played & sang it through for an audience of one this week – my kiddo, Jeremy, who is my musical inspiration. I’m not ready to play for anyone else just yet, but I promise that I’ll let you know as soon as I am.

Here’s the video that helped me learn the song.

Thing Three

This starts on August 11th, and I could NOT BE MORE STOKED.

Thing Four

This is my new microphone. It is, apparently, the official microphone of podcasters everywhere.

Yes, that’s a teaser.

No, I’m not telling you anymore. You’ll just have to stay tuned.

Thing Five

I may not have been writing much, but I am arting a metric butt tonne. Here are a few peeks into my journaling process.

And that’s it for this week’s edition of Friday Five! I hope you enjoyed this peek into what’s delighting & inspiring me this week. Have a beautiful weekend and I’ll see you back here soon. <3

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Friday Five – Middle Age, My Guitar, Roasted Red Pepper Tapenade

Welcome to this week’s edition of Friday Five! Five things that are rocking my poptarts! Good things. Moving things. Things that restore my faith in humanity, or my faith in myself. Artsy things! Nerdy things! ALL THE LOVELY THINGS!* If you’d like to get my blog in your inbox, click here. If you’d rather just get my weekly newsletter (with a round up of my blog posts included in link form + subscriber perks, including discounts), click here.

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Thing One

Can we talk about a sensitive thing for a second?

I’m aging. The contours of my face are changing. Lines appear that were never there before. I have hot flashes. Like, multitudinous hot flashes. My skin isn’t nearly as supple as it once was. There’s a hair that grows over night out of my chin, and it’s the texture of barbed wire.I have wisdom glitter sprouting all over my head. My face seems to be slowly descending down my neck. Things that used to be pretty firm now flap.

“I ache in the places that I used to play.” Leonard Cohen, man. He knew stuff.

And yet…I feel more beautiful than ever. I feel embodied. I love being in my own skin. I catch sight of myself in a mirror, and I beam back at my reflection. I like to move this body. I am more and more inspired to dance. I want to take up yoga, and even have some community things in my calendar that are designed for beginners so I can actually satisfy that desire.

My relationship with my body has moved out of the realm of self-care deficit & utter neglect to this present realm I live in – this realm of self-love. And I’m not just talking about the warm fuzzy feely kind of self love. I’m talking about the morning hand full of B vitamins + multivitamin. I’m talking about the tincture that lets me sleep without anxiety. I’m talking about the food I give it, the way I adorn it, the choice, over and over again of comfort over anything that pinches or restricts the outrageous jiggling in my generous thighs. I’m talking about slathering it in coconut oil and spritzing it liberally with anything cut through with patchouli.

If you’re a survivour, too, you’ll know something about the kind of hard work it takes to get here.

The body, having been violated, can shut down. We can forget we *have one*. Forget to feed it, forget to tend it with loving care. We can live from our necks up in a way that fosters self-abandonment. We lose touch with our sensuality, our sexuality, with our healthy hunger. We can lose touch with desire.

Therapy has helped. So has the very powerful practice of meeting myself on the page. These commitments to the being known as Effy have borne beautiful fruit in the form of a more intimate relationship with my self in all my parts, including the ones that exist below my neck, that do the tireless work of keeping me anchored to this planet, that send signals like “eat”, “touch”, “move” to my brain in the spirit of trust that I will heed those signals.

There are still holdovers of self-abuse and neglect.

I smoke cigarettes. I can be very sedentary (though less so these days). I do sometimes still forget to eat until the work is done, which sends my body into a state of resentful depletion that requires extra tender loving care to come back from. But these issues are waning. They are becoming less and less prominent in my list of battles I must fight. I am finding myself focusing my attention elsewhere, higher up on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. 

“Eat breakfast before 4 p.m.” is no longer a statement I have to make to myself. “Bathe” is not something I ever need to add to my to do list anymore. Now I find myself jotting down things like “Explore the possibility of Bali.” and “What if you got over your resistance to having a car so you could travel some?”

Self love causes these shifts, and creative practice (plus trauma centered recovery, hello) facilitates self love.

Yes, I am an evangelist. I can’t help myself. I’ve been on the ‘pink cloud‘ of recovery from self-neglect through mixed media art journaling for seven years now, and I want *everyone* to come to a meeting. *Laughs*

I just wanted to tell you.

See this woman? I *love* this woman.

Thing Two

I dusted off my guitar, bought a stand for it so it could live in my living room, got a handful of picks, a battery for my built in pick up/tuner. I bookmarked Nate Savage’sGuitar System” and marched my virtual ass back in there. I started a bookmarks folder called ‘songs to learn’. I filed down the nails on my left hand so I could fret without fretting. I bought a music stand. I got a friend to tune my guitar, established that the strings aren’t yet dead, strummed C, G, Am & E as a way to ‘get back on the bike’, and woo her back to life.

I’ve been practicing enough that callouses are forming. I can bumble my way through “What’s Up” without too much trouble, and next on my list of things to take on is “how to play while standing up and singing at the same time”.

This is a life long dream of mine. I have always been one of those song birds – you know the ones – who can’t do anything without breaking into off key arias. I listen to music all the time, and even used to be a bit of a karaoke queen. I *can* sing passably well, but I’ve always wanted to sing *and* play, so I’m giving myself the gift of *time* in order that I may learn how to do that.

One of these days, I’ll perform at an open mic. It’s on my bucket list. I’ll be sure to get someone to film it when it happens.

Thing Three

Pictures of things with my art on it have started appearing in my social media feed. Dudes, I can’t tell you how wonderfully weird this is.

I’ve been joking on Facebook that I’m going to call the ‘surface design’ arm of my creative business WTF Designs – because it works as “Wild Things Fashion” Designs, but also as WTF! HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?

Who knew I’d be doing this? I didn’t. I really didn’t.

Anyway, several of you have written to ask where you can find the rugs, so here’s the link. I recommend signing up for an account so you can get notifications on sales! Sometimes they have percentages off everything + worldwide free shipping, so it’s worth giving them a little space in your inbox.

I’m thinking about redoing my living room with all things “Spirit Vine“. There’s a rug, throw pillows, wall tapestries, etc. etc. etc. so a room makeover is not out of the question.

Thing Four

Roasted Red Pepper Tapenade is a wonderful garnish on a beautifully seared steak. This is a pretty good recipe, though I like way more roasted red pepper and way less olives. Adjust to suit. You’re welcome!

Thing Five

 

THIS BEARS REPEATING!

Ever After 2017 starts July 1st.

Today is the LAST day you can use your coupon! Use it or lose it!

Art Journal Summer School ALSO Starts on July 1st!

See you there!

And that’s it for this week’s edition of Friday Five! I hope you enjoyed this peek into what’s delighting & inspiring me this week. Have a beautiful weekend and I’ll see you back here soon. <3

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Friday Five – Artist Dates, Wearable Art, & Roses

Welcome to this week’s edition of Friday Five! Five things that are rocking my poptarts! Good things. Moving things. Things that restore my faith in humanity, or my faith in myself. Artsy things! Nerdy things! ALL THE LOVELY THINGS!* If you’d like to get my blog in your inbox, click here. If you’d rather just get my weekly newsletter (with a round up of my blog posts included in link form + subscriber perks, including discounts), click here.

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Thing One

Three years ago this month, I moved out of my marital home and in with a roommate, whose house was swiftly offered up for sale out from underneath her, necessitating another move to my little hobbit hole on Old Carriage Drive.

It was, frankly, completely awful. Living alone, being alone, was not in my wheelhouse. Had *never* been in my wheelhouse. I didn’t know how to cook for one, for example. I didn’t know how to fill the hours. I didn’t know how to *sleep* alone, or plan alone, or live without being anchored to some other being. I was an orbiting planet and other people were my North Star. Actually, I was less planet and more moon. A vast, empty satellite waning light and dark in accordance with whatever light came (or didn’t come) from elsewhere.

Fast forward to today, and I am now that girl who, when friends text to cancel social outings, fist bumps the air, sheds the ‘outside clothing’, and settles in, happily, for solo time. My life is set up so that I *get to have* a lot of time alone. I *like* being alone. I like living alone. I like having everything in my life designed so that it revolves around solitude broken only *as I wish* with social time that is carefully scheduled to accommodate my need for *alone time*.

Where I used to cry myself to sleep from loneliness, I now scramble to ensure that I don’t overwhelm myself with social stuff. My, how things have changed. *Fist bumps self with a booyah!*

Artist Dates (a la Julia Cameron) has been a major part of that shift. Where I used to feel pathetic about dining alone, or going out alone, I now see it as a source of creative fuel. I take myself on solo dates regularly. A travel art kit, and enough dosh on my debit card to get a pint and a meal, and I’m set for the evening.

A friend asked me to do a goddess t-shirt, so I’m playing with designs for that. This one began as a meditation last October, but I’m working on her again to see if I can fill her out and make her t-shirt worthy.

I’ve written about Descendants before, but what I didn’t know was that they have an open mic every Thursday, and last night. As a result, there came a point in my solo evening when I had to make a decision, because the place went from very conducive to this kind of thing to not so conducive. Live music turns any place into a party, and open mics especially so.
To make eye contact or not to make eye contact. That was the question. To pack up and book it out of there before the open mic began in earnest? Or to put away the painty things and enter the fray along with my fellow humans.

I opted for the latter. Put the sketchbook away. Sat gazing with an open face at all that was happening around me. Got invited to join a table (the seating at Descendants is communal). Bought a pint of whisky caramel pecan ice cream to share. Made friends. Exchanged numbers. Connected on Facebook.

Having the *choice* to do that is wonderful. Gauging my level of ‘ability to human’, and then accommodating that is wonderful. Sharing a pint of ice cream with strangers is wonderful. Finding humans that feel like tribe is wonderful.Not feeling like I’m going to die of loneliness? Priceless.

Thing Two

I’m learning a metric butt tonne about surface pattern design lately – something my Journal52 + Facebook tribe helped me with by raising the funds for me to take Pattern Camp + Creative Campfire with Jessica Swift.

I am *in love y’all*. I get to combine my desire for messy, doodly, paint-in-the-hair time + nerdy Photoshop time to create patterns that are suitable for use on all the things.

This pattern started its life as a journal spread for my BODKin, which will go live in class this coming Monday. The spread is a ‘gratitude garden’, and the demonstration includes a myriad of techniques including pushing and pulling background and foreground to create a lot of value contrast, deli paper as a ‘no mistake’ option for adding text, and using india ink markers over acrylics paints.

Book Of Days 2017 – Session Two – Week Nine

Once the spread was finished, I scanned it, and used areas of the spread in a kaleidoscope like pattern that I created in Photoshop, and uploaded to my Society6 & Redbubble account.

One of my lovely Wildlings (thanks Patti!!) bought an a-line dress with this design on it. It’s a *crazy thought* that people might want to adorn their homes & bodies with my stuff, but apparently, this is a thing!

A-line dress in my psychedelic floral pattern called “Wild Garden”. Also comes in all the things, including skirts, t-shirts, wall tapestries, rugs, notebooks, etc.

It took me a long time to get up the gumption to try my hand at using Society6 (great for art prints, device covers, notebooks, household stuff, etc.) & Redbubble (for skirts, shirts, tapestries, etc.) to create another income stream. People have been asking for prints of my work for quite a while now – like, a couple of years – but it always felt weird to me. Like – yes, I will show you pictures of my babies, but why would YOU want to hang them on your wall?

I’m over that now that I’ve discovered how much fun it is to create with surface pattern design in mind. It is a *BLAST*, y’all! And while it isn’t going to make me rich any time soon (Seven sales so far, adding up to a total of about $40 commission), it does delight me, fire me  up, and provide me with a ready answer when someone asks “Can I buy that?” Yes! Yes you can! Thank you!

*Squee!*

Thing Three

Speaking of surface pattern design, roses are sexy.

This is a macro of a demonstration I did for Let’s Face It 2017. It’s a two part thing wherein I share a tip (using Tombows SIX WAYS) and then a mini lesson in creating these lush, sexy roses using – you guessed it – Tombow markers!

This was about an hour of happy patterning & colouring. You can join me for this and a whole bunch of other lessons by eleventy billion* other amazing teachers in LFI2017 by clicking here.

*May be a slight exaggeration. The use of hyperbole is strong with this one

Thing Four

Remember this? I posted about it last week and said I might try merging the face at left with the pattern at right.

She’s coming along brilliantly. A friend who saw her live and in person suggested that she looked like an exhausted guardian angel. Apropos, I think, considering what I must put my guardian angel through on the regular.

Thing Five

Ever After 2017 starts July 1st.

You can only use your coupon until that day, so if you were hoping to get in on this awesome deal, don’t delay!

And that’s it for this week’s edition of Friday Five! I hope you enjoyed this peek into what’s delighting & inspiring me this week. Have a beautiful weekend and I’ll see you back here soon. <3

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Friday Five – Festing, Society6, and These Delicious Elongated Faces.

Welcome to this week’s edition of Friday Five! Five things that are rocking my poptarts! Good things. Moving things. Things that restore my faith in humanity, or my faith in myself. Artsy things! Nerdy things! ALL THE LOVELY THINGS!* If you’d like to get my blog in your inbox, click here. If you’d rather just get my weekly newsletter (with a round up of my blog posts included in link form + subscriber perks, including discounts), click here.

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Thing One

You may have noticed that there was no Friday Five last week. I had a very good reason for that, though, so read on!

Every year, for about ten years now, I’ve done my best to make it out to at least one festival of the ‘revel fire ’till dawn’ kind. This year, I had planned on going to Wic-Can Fest for the weekend, and I was really excited about it because I haven’t had any time off of the ‘away from home’ variety since last October.

Well, on Monday, I wrote to the organizer to confirm what I’d need to pay for the weekend, and she wrote back to ask me to come in for the entire duration, since she needed someone to help with registration. BOOYAH!

So, off I went for four glorious nights, and five glorious days in the best weather we’ve seen in Southwestern Ontario so far this year! I danced. I feasted. I imbibed. I indulged in adornment (henna, y’all. I love the stuff). I bought a few festive things to wear. I listened to live music every night. I got wickedly sunburned, and then discovered the wonders of cannabis cream. I communed with the oaks. I shook my ta tas at the fire. My bestie came up on Saturday, and we spent the day and night quietly enjoying one another’s (platonic, but precious) company.

A friend asked me why I love pagan festivals so much, and I declared that for years, as a spiritual lone wolf, I’d lost and missed the communal things – the feasts, the raising of voices in song, the revel fires, the long talks into the night, the beauty of ritual, the ways we mark our milestones, and pagan festivals give those things back to me, and then some. Having gone to this particular festival for nigh on a decade now, it feels, every single time, like a family reunion.

Wic-Can Fest and Harvest Fest aren’t the ‘biggest’ festivals in Southwestern Ontario, but they are my favourite. I always meet someone new while surrounded by the comfort of the familiar. I watch children grow up, and beloved friends grow older, year after year.

I don’t have a blood family to speak of, except for those blood kin that issued forth from my body, so this is as close as I ever get to that familial feeling.

I love it, y’all. Love it. And I love the people that inhabit this gorgeous home away from home that I get to revisit year after year.

Thing Two

Lately, when I post a piece of art I’ve finished, I often hear things like “I want a print of that” or “Can I buy that?” or “That would look great as an <insert thing with my art on it here>”. So, voila.

Yup! I’m on Society6, y’all! Someone already has a bathmat winging its way toward them as I type! Check it out here, and thank you for your support! <3

Thing Three

I finished this lesson for Book Of Days in the nick of time to wing my way off to Wic-Can fest. She is glorious, no? I created her to express what best nourishes me – earth & fire. She’s a kind of an homage to Klimt & Modigliani – two of my favourite artists.

I know we’re half way through the year, but that really shouldn’t stop you from joining me in Book Of Days 2017! You get indefinite access (so, like, as long as I’m alive and teaching), so you can take your time. You won’t want to, though. You’ll want to dive in and do ALL THE THINGS, but it will be nice to know you don’t have to. Content is also downloadable so if you’d love a mixed media art buffet just waiting for you to gorge on, I’m your huckleberry.

Click here for details. (ON SALE NOW)

Thing Four

Since my return home this past Monday, I’ve pretty much barricade myself into my studio. As much as I enjoyed the time away from work, I really missed my painty table and my ridiculously large array of supplies. I started a background on Monday, and finished it yesterday. Then, I sketched one of the elongated faces I’ve been loving lately. I’m thinking about merging the two into a complete spread later today, if time permits. If not, maybe tomorrow.

Look at her little face! I posted her with the caption “I wonder what she’s thinking” and someone suggested she’d lost her under eye concealer. *Giggles* I loved that comment so much!

Thing Five

I finished the last details for my lesson for Art Journal Summer School, which begins on July 1st! Here’s a sneaky peek of the PDF. This collection of very quick tutorials will keep you creating all summer long!

My contribution includes a DIY watercolour travel palette, and a postcard project that made me wish *I* was traveling abroad this year, and you know that says something because, unless we’re talking about a festival that’s just an hour and a half up the road, I do not travel well. Still, even though I’m not traveling abroad, this project can be adapted to the staycation with ease.

I hope you join me, since it’s going to be super fun, and I’ve come to really value the benefit of quick tutorials that get me creating in 20 mins or less.

Want something more in depth and full on? Try Ever After 2017.

I guarantee you will be enchanted by the lessons in painting fairy tales AND developing your own style. I will be working with the tale of Baba Yaga as told in Clarissa Pinkola Estes’s book “Women Who Run With The Wolves”. In this two for one portrait lesson, we will create a blind contour painting of our inner wise old hag (we’ve all got one) and more composed portrait of our inner princess (we’ve all got one of those as well.). See you there!

And that’s it for this week’s edition of Friday Five! I hope you enjoyed this peek into what’s delighting & inspiring me this week. Have a beautiful weekend and I’ll see you back here soon. <3

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Friday Five – Books, Pan Pastels, and a Thing I Wrote

Welcome to this week’s edition of Friday Five! Five things that are rocking my poptarts! Good things. Moving things. Things that restore my faith in humanity, or my faith in myself. Artsy things! Nerdy things! ALL THE LOVELY THINGS!* If you’d like to get my blog in your inbox, click here. If you’d rather just get my weekly newsletter (with a round up of my blog posts included in link form + subscriber perks, including discounts), click here.

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Thing One

Last Friday, I went to Toronto with my friend, Sal, to catch Whitney Freya at her “Rise Above” workshop, and it was fabulous. Whitney is a very charismatic teacher who articulates her vision very, very clearly. She is *fabulous* in person, and I’m really glad I went. Her book, Rise Above, is available for pre-order here. I’ve already pre-ordered mine, so I got a soft copy in PDF form, and wow. It’s gorgeous. Check it out!

You can also watch the 45 minute talk Whitney gave live in Toronto at Shecosystem here. In it, she talks about art as a deeply spiritual practice that allows us to raise our vibration & work in cohoots with the Universe to create the life we’re meant to have.

You can also watch it right here. You’re welcome! xo

Thing Two

Earlier in the year you may remember me going on about a HUGE MAJOR SUPER AMAZING SECRET project that I was TERRIFIED AND ALSO EXCITED about. Well, it’s no longer a secret!

The ever gorgeous Tamara Laporte* of Life Book has written Create Your Life Book (the book!), and I am a guest contributor!

Here’s the blurb on Amazon:

Based on much-loved mixed-media artist Tamara Laporte’s popular, multi-year series of online classes, Create Your Life Book offers mixed-media drawing and painting projects that can raise your awareness of and help you work through personal challenges and other obstacles to creating art and achieving self-fulfillment.

Each themed chapter presents 4 or 5 two-part projects: The first part of each project explores a common issue that hampers creativity and/or positive self-worth, and includes a worksheet or list of questions to be answered; the second part is a step-by-step mixed-media art project that provides a way for artists at all skill levels to contemplate and work through that issue. Also included are projects contributed by some of Tamara’s Life Book guest teachers–Roxane Coble, Andrea Gomoll, Alena Hennessy, Mystele Kirkeeng, Ivy Newport, and (ME!) Effy Wild–who are noted mixed-media artists in their own right. Along the way, Tamara shares inspirational photos and uplifting and encouraging affirmations. The final chapter presents a simple binding method for creating a keepsake book of your Life Book projects.

You can pre-order now!
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Look for a blog hop to come soooooon!

Thing Three

You may remember last week I showed you a spread in progress on my painty table. Here it is again in case you missed it:

Well, last Sunday I got together in a live video session with my tribe and finished it up.

This little face makes me incredibly happy. It was an experiment with Pan Pastels on gesso, and it worked beautifully. I also used some stencils + gesso + Pan Pastels in the right hand side of the spread, and that thrilled me, too.

We had a great live class that lasted about 2 hours. We played with Pan Pastels on gesso, and then experimented with Versamark + Pan Pastels with varying degrees of success.

If you want to join me for my lives in the future (I do about one a month), please sign up for my newsletter here. I sent out announcements of the lives to all subscribers, and provide links to the replays in the VIP Resources Page that my subscribers get as a perk.

Thing Four

I wrote this on my Facebook Timeline this week, but I wanted to share it here.

This month in Book Of Days, our key word is “Nuture”, and we’re exploring (through written & art journaling) the difference between the stuff that ‘just happens’ vs. the stuff that needs our tending in order that it may happen. Some of the journaling prompts center around balance between self-nurture and other nurture.

It’s always an interesting focus for me because pre-single, I found it extremely difficult to nurture myself. The past three years have been an exploration of self-nurture – of learning to cook beautiful food for myself, of making a space for myself that feels like a nest for all my tender baby dreams, of creating a life in which I am my own North Star.

It’s not easy to come out of orbit around an entire family and put oneself firmly in the center of your own life, but sometimes, this is where we find ourselves. Here, in the center. Burning brightly. Our own.

As your own North Star, you get to choose what you tend, what you discard, what you focus on, what you opt out of. Does being single suck sometimes? Yeah. It does, but untangling myself from all the ‘othering’ has been a huge path of growth for me.

#silverlinings #myownnorthstar #sovereign

P.S. If you want to dive deep in a safe & brave community of women who are walking the walk around creative practice, you can! Not ready for a deep dive? Maybe next year. :)

In the meantime, you are welcome to save this to your desktop and print it out if you like!

Thing Five

These little faces in my #MiniMoleyDaily are helping me catch up after a month long tumble off the wagon of minimoley practice.

And that’s it for this week’s edition of Friday Five! I hope you enjoyed this peek into what’s delighting & inspiring me this week. Have a beautiful weekend and I’ll see you back here soon. <3

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P.S. If you’re a subscriber to my newsletter, you might want to check out the VIP page today! (Check the latest newsletter I sent out for the login if you’ve forgotten it!). I added VIP pricing on the Soul Friend Angel workshop, just for you.

Regularly $27, VIPs get this tender mixed media exploration for $20.

Have a beautiful weekend!

Friday Five – Nepotism & New Hairs

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Thing One

This morning, a Facebook friend sent me a poem that reminded her of me, but she didn’t tell me who wrote it. I loved the poem, so I plugged the words into Google and found the poet. Finding the poet led to an on line magazine that I am now complete in love with.

Rabbit holes.

Love them. They happen to me all the time, too, and I think its because I consider myself a co-conspirator with the Universe. We’re in cahoots, the universe and I, and as a result, the coolest things happen. I’m always happy to play Alice to the rabbit hole of the universe.

Like this:

Two weeks or so ago, I had a really intense conversation with someone I love during which I was trying to understand something really important and fundamental. I was reaching for understanding, and just *not getting it*. I am a girl who can’t reach a place of acceptance until I *understand*, so you can imagine how frustrating it is for me when I *can’t*.

The conversation, and the desire for understanding was so intense that it wound its way into my dreamscapes and I had a series of very bad nights full of very bad dreams. On the last in the series of bad nights, I remember waking up multiple times feeling ragey and super frustrated with my subconscious. I said, out loud at 4 a.m., “Please let me have some peace!” It was a kind of prayer, I guess, though that wasn’t my intention. I was just pissed off and frustrated that, even in sleep, I couldn’t escape the sense of frustration.

The next day, exhausted from days of sleep deprivation, I was working on cleaning up the studio, and as usual, I queued up my a podcast. Boom. The answer came through my speakers from an unknown voice. It was like being hit by lightening. And not only was that one niggling question answered, but multiple answers that I hadn’t even formulated the questions for came flying out at me from the speakers. The relief was palpable. I felt a rush of gratitude. I said, out loud, “Ohhhhhhh KAY! NOW I get it!” And I’ve slept like a baby since.

Thanks, universe! You rock.

Thing Two

I’m working on this in my large sized Dylusions journal. It’s about confusion, about being ‘tangled up in blue’. It’s taking forever (that hair is out of my comfort zone), but it feels like a meditation every time I come to the page.

Thing Three

My step-daughter started a YouTube channel called TheNewGirl MUA in which she is going to be sharing make up looks, tricks, & tips. I know, I know…I don’t even really wear make-up, but watching her shade and highlight her face made me think about shading portraits in a new way! She’s also funny as hell, so I thought I’d share her channel with you. Since I ‘know the artist’, I get to make requests, so look for a ‘very, very pared down day face for lazy moms’ coming to her channel very soon. :D

Here’s her bio:

Hey! I am Leah aka TheNewGirl MUA on YouTube! I have been doing make up for about 3 or 4 years, and decided to share what I’ve learned with aspiring make up artists, or people who would like to learn a thing or two about make up! Subscribe for tutorials, tips, tricks, and looks, and of course, fun!  Find my channel here. Find me on instagram here. @thenewgirl_mua

Thing Four

Yesterday morning, I was preparing my Pan Pastels for a live video gathering I’m hosting this coming Sunday. (Get on my e-list for details, loves!) I haven’t *touched* my Pan Pastels since some time back in 2014, so I was checking my inventory, putting together a kit to use during the live gather, and just generally getting them ready. Well, some of my Pan Pastels are screwed together in a stack, and I was opening that up to see what colours I had.

This poor stack of pastels has been through the ringer over the last three years. I’ve moved three times, so it’s been tossed in boxes, and pretty much mistreated. So, you know what’s coming next, right?

Pan Pastel everywhere.

First thing.

Before coffee.

All over my rug.

So, it was morning and I had a list to slay. I brushed up as much of the Pan Pastel as I could and then put a towel over top of the remains (rest in peace, Pan Pastel!) to be dealt with later.

Then this happened:

Whaddya think, mama? Is it my colour?

Look at my pretty hairs!!

So then, this happened. :D

SORRY NOT SORRY MAMA!

Thing Five

Ikea delivers, thank the gods, and this is now on its way to my house.

And that’s it for this week’s edition of Friday Five! I hope you enjoyed this peek into what’s delighting & inspiring me this week. Have a beautiful weekend and I’ll see you back here soon. <3

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