Friday Five – Fierce Mama, Fierce Self-Care, Fierce Art

Welcome to this week’s edition of Friday Five! Five things that are rocking my poptarts! Good things. Moving things. Things that restore my faith in humanity, or my faith in myself. Artsy things! Nerdy things! ALL THE LOVELY THINGS!* If you’d like to get my blog in your inbox, click here. If you’d rather just get my weekly newsletter (with a round up of my blog posts included in link form + subscriber perks, including discounts), click here.

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Thing One

It’s been a little minute since last we typed, but this is not an apology.

I have been struggling a bit with feeling overwhelmed with the whole ‘adult child living with me’ thing. I love my kids. You know I do, but they are adults now, and I don’t necessarily love living with them – especially not in a space that’s this perfectly designed for *one*. My studio is his bedroom, so my work flow has been all out of whack. I’m not getting my requisite amount of solitude.Etc. etc. Insert list of ways this is challenging here.

This is life, right? We adapt. We overcome. At least, that’s what I do. You, too, right?

The kiddo is moving out at the end of this month. The week before he moves out, another kiddo is coming for a visit from out of town with his fiance in tow. It’s going to be an intense week – so full of goodness, but also full of family in close proximity even less space & time. And then? I’ll have my space back, and I’ll be able to reclaim my creative practice, and reassert the schedule that works for me.

Yes, I’m counting the days. You bet I am.

I know that I am extremely lucky to have the kind of relationship I have with my kids, and I want you to know that I am *incredibly* grateful. I know that it’s uncommon for moms to talk about how much they’d rather *not* live with their kids. I know there’s a lot of shame that goes along with meeting one’s needs and establishing (and protecting) one’s boundaries. Moms are supposed to experience paroxysms of joy over the presence of their adult children, right? We’re supposed to do gleeful jigs and COOK ALL THE THINGS and hug the stuffing out of our adult kids as often as we are able.

And *I am that mom* when there is enough time and space between visits. I’m that mom when I haven’t been in close proximity for an extended period of time, like I have been this past year – this intense year of orbiting an adult child, of being present to and accessible at the drop of a hat while he negotiates his reentry into the world after a serious & terrifying break with reality.

Mental illness is no joke.

It impacts the one who has it, and it impacts the ones who love the one who has it. We are blessed that my son is now stable and able to move into his own place. We’re *so* lucky that the end of our cohabitation is nigh, that he and I have successfully gotten through it, and that our relationship is still solid. I’m all kinds of full of gratitude for all the ways this has grown us both, and all the light it has shed on how far I’ve come in the self-care department.

This is the real ‘thing one’ for realsies. 

I am a fierce mom, and I am devoted to the well-being of my children. I am also no longer that person who gives up everything and spends her all on other people. I reserve some for myself. I put myself *first*. I know the rightness of that. I know the value of that, and how much better off all my people are as a result.

Thing Two

I have found a few resources to aid me in my guitar practice, and I wanted to share them with you.

First of all, this lovely hardwood guitar stand is gorgeous & doesn’t take up a whole lot of space.

Second of all, these two sites have oodles of chords for songs I’d love to learn how to play.

And YouTube, man. So much goodness on YouTube!

The first song I’ve learned to play is “What’s Up” by 4 Non Blondes. I played & sang it through for an audience of one this week – my kiddo, Jeremy, who is my musical inspiration. I’m not ready to play for anyone else just yet, but I promise that I’ll let you know as soon as I am.

Here’s the video that helped me learn the song.

Thing Three

This starts on August 11th, and I could NOT BE MORE STOKED.

Thing Four

This is my new microphone. It is, apparently, the official microphone of podcasters everywhere.

Yes, that’s a teaser.

No, I’m not telling you anymore. You’ll just have to stay tuned.

Thing Five

I may not have been writing much, but I am arting a metric butt tonne. Here are a few peeks into my journaling process.

And that’s it for this week’s edition of Friday Five! I hope you enjoyed this peek into what’s delighting & inspiring me this week. Have a beautiful weekend and I’ll see you back here soon. <3

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Journal52 – Week #29 – Gather

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Every week in 2017, you will receive a new prompt card from Effy Wild. Designed to jump start your next art journal spread, these cards are printable for your future use as well, so you can expect to collect 52 cards by the end of the year! Each card comes with a word, definition, synonyms, art prompt, and ‘oracle prompt’. You can copy/paste this information for your own records, and use it & the card in meditation, or in written or art journaling as you see fit!

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Before We Dive In…

I opened Mixed Tape II for registration this week! It will be an eight week exploration of ‘ways in’ to the journal through music. I’m really excited to have Cristin Stevenson & Sarah Trumpp joining me as guest artists for this delicious dance on the page! Please click here for more information. Class starts August 11th, but BONUS WEEK is already up and available for you to enjoy right now!

Please note that you can select which guest artist you wish to support through your purchase by clicking on their names above or here:

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Each guest artist makes 50% commission on each seat purchased through their personal affiliate link, and I would love it if you would pick one or the other. Happy guest artists = happy hostess!!

Cristin has already completed her guest artist lesson! Here’s a sneak peak!

What You Get

  • Instant access to “BONUS WEEK” which includes two different journal creation tutorials + access to Book Of Days Boot Camp & Succulent Stacks. This is available immediately upon your entry into the classroom.
  • Eight additional weeks of lessons – six by Effy, and one each by Cristin & Sarah.
  • Forever access to the classroom. Once you buy one of my classes, you *own* it. All content is also downloadable for your convenience.
  • Quality, full length video instruction + PDF walk-throughs that include step by step instructions and supplies lists.
  • Access to Effy, Sarah, & Cristin for feedback & assistance in our private Facebook Group.
  • Alumni status that includes discounts on future classes taught in this teaching network.
  • Weekly playlists created by Effy to enhance your Mixed Tape experience.
  • Weekly vlogs with Effy that cover the lesson content + any musings that may arise as a result of student questions & comments.
  • A one hour “live” in our Facebook Group at the end of class to celebrate our accomplishments and close out the session.
  • Invitations to all future live events hosted monthly by Effy Wild.

I would love to see you there!

ONWARD TO WEEK #29

Feel free to save this image, and print it for your own personal use as an art journal prompt card OR as an oracle/meditation card.In sharing your responses to these prompts on line, I ask that you use the following format:

“This week I’m working with the prompt “word” from Effy Wild’s Journal52 <linked to http://journal52.com>. You can find the prompt and art card here. <permalink to the post for that week.>.

Please don’t lift the cards or written prompts from my website to share in your own spaces. Direct folks to the original post at journal52.com so they can find it themselves.

Feel free to copy/paste this information for your own records:

GATHER
To bring together into one group, collection, or place. To pick or harvest, as in fruit or flowers.

Synonyms
Assemble, collect, congregate, draw, meet, pick, accumulate, garner, pluck, swarm, unite.

Prompt
Explore what you wish to gather up in your life (metaphorically or literally) or who you wish to gather with. Use symbols and images that represent ‘enoughness’ or ‘abundance’.

Oracle
What is currently abundantly available to you? What do you wish was more available? What do you want to gather? Who is your tribe, and how can you build community with them?

As always, do whatever you feel inspired to do! Use what you have! Create in anyway you are inspired to create! Enjoy! And have a great week!

Journal52 – Week #28 – Speak

Journal52 is member supported! Please tip generously! 

Every week in 2017, you will receive a new prompt card from Effy Wild. Designed to jump start your next art journal spread, these cards are printable for your future use as well, so you can expect to collect 52 cards by the end of the year! Each card comes with a word, definition, synonyms, art prompt, and ‘oracle prompt’. You can copy/paste this information for your own records, and use it & the card in meditation, or in written or art journaling as you see fit!

Want to commune with over 11 100 art journalers? Join our Facebook Group Here!

Want Journal52 in your inbox? Click here to get RSS to e-mail.

Before We Dive In…

I opened Mixed Tape II for registration this week! It will be an eight week exploration of ‘ways in’ to the journal through music. I’m really excited to have Cristin Stevenson & Sarah Trumpp joining me as guest artists for this delicious dance on the page! Please click here for more information. Class starts August 11th, but BONUS WEEK is already up and available for you to enjoy right now!

What You Get

  • Instant access to “BONUS WEEK” which includes two different journal creation tutorials + access to Book Of Days Boot Camp & Succulent Stacks. This is available immediately upon your entry into the classroom.
  • Eight additional weeks of lessons – six by Effy, and one each by Cristin & Sarah.
  • Forever access to the classroom. Once you buy one of my classes, you *own* it. All content is also downloadable for your convenience.
  • Quality, full length video instruction + PDF walk throughs that include step by step instructions and supplies lists.
  • Access to Effy, Sarah, & Cristin for feedback & assistance in our private Facebook Group.
  • Alumni status that includes discounts on future classes taught in this teaching network.
  • Weekly playlists created by Effy to enhance your Mixed Tape experience.
  • Weekly vlogs with Effy that cover the lesson content + any musings that may arise as a result of student questions & comments.
  • A one hour “live” in our Facebook Group at the end of class to celebrate our accomplishments and close out the session.
  • Invitations to all future live events hosted monthly by Effy Wild.

I would love to see you there!

On An Enchanted Note

Ever After 2017 is open and in full swing and it’s GLORIOUS Y’ALL! Check it out here.

Look at all the gorgeousness we’re creating in our first month of tutorials!!

Whether you’re coming over for the fairy tale lessons, or for the whole shebang with style development guidance included, you will be absolutely enchanted!

ONWARD TO WEEK #28

Feel free to save this image, and print it for your own personal use as an art journal prompt card OR as an oracle/meditation card.In sharing your responses to these prompts on line, I ask that you use the following format:

“This week I’m working with the prompt “word” from Effy Wild’s Journal52 <linked to http://journal52.com>. You can find the prompt and art card here. <permalink to the post for that week.>.

Please don’t lift the cards or written prompts from my website to share in your own spaces. Direct folks to the original post at journal52.com so they can find it themselves.

Feel free to copy/paste this information for your own records:

SPEAK
To utter words or articulate sounds with the ordinary voice. To communicate. To express or make known with the voice. To speak the truth.

Synonyms
Communicate, convey, declare, express, say, tell.

Prompt
Create a spread in which you tell your own truth/story. Express yourself in words on the page, and use images that express the act of speaking up.

Oracle
What needs to be said? What do you want to ‘speak into being’? How can telling your truth help you bring forth what you most desire right now?

As always, do whatever you feel inspired to do! Use what you have! Create in anyway you are inspired to create! Enjoy! And have a great week!

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Art Journal Summer School – STARTS JULY 1
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Journal52 – Week #27 – Grow

Journal52 is member supported! Please tip generously! 

Every week in 2017, you will receive a new prompt card from Effy Wild. Designed to jump start your next art journal spread, these cards are printable for your future use as well, so you can expect to collect 52 cards by the end of the year! Each card comes with a word, definition, synonyms, art prompt, and ‘oracle prompt’. You can copy/paste this information for your own records, and use it & the card in meditation, or in written or art journaling as you see fit!

Want to commune with over 11 100 art journalers? Join our Facebook Group Here!

Want Journal52 in your inbox? Click here to get RSS to e-mail.

Before We Dive In…

I opened Mixed Tape II for registration this week! It will be an eight week exploration of ‘ways in’ to the journal through music. I’m really excited to have Cristin Stevenson & Sarah Trumpp joining me as guest artists for this delicious dance on the page! Please click here for more information. Class starts August 11th, but BONUS WEEK is already up and available for you to enjoy right now!

What You Get

  • Instant access to “BONUS WEEK” which includes two different journal creation tutorials + access to Book Of Days Boot Camp & Succulent Stacks. This is available immediately upon your entry into the classroom.
  • Eight additional weeks of lessons – six by Effy, and one each by Cristin & Sarah.
  • Forever access to the classroom. Once you buy one of my classes, you *own* it. All content is also downloadable for your convenience.
  • Quality, full length video instruction + PDF walk throughs that include step by step instructions and supplies lists.
  • Access to Effy, Sarah, & Cristin for feedback & assistance in our private Facebook Group.
  • Alumni status that includes discounts on future classes taught in this teaching network.
  • Weekly playlists created by Effy to enhance your Mixed Tape experience.
  • Weekly vlogs with Effy that cover the lesson content + any musings that may arise as a result of student questions & comments.
  • A one hour “live” in our Facebook Group at the end of class to celebrate our accomplishments and close out the session.
  • Invitations to all future live events hosted monthly by Effy Wild.

I would love to see you there!

ONWARD TO WEEK #27

Feel free to save this image, and print it for your own personal use as an art journal prompt card OR as an oracle/meditation card.In sharing your responses to these prompts on line, I ask that you use the following format:

“This week I’m working with the prompt “word” from Effy Wild’s Journal52 <linked to http://journal52.com>. You can find the prompt and art card here. <permalink to the post for that week.>.

Please don’t lift the cards or written prompts from my website to share in your own spaces. Direct folks to the original post at journal52.com so they can find it themselves.

Feel free to copy/paste this information for your own records:

GROW
To arise or issue forth as a natural development from an original happening, circumstance, or source. To come to be by degrees.

Synonyms
Become, develop, expand, flourish, rise, thrive, burgeon, ripen, spring up, fill out, get bigger, come to be.

Prompt
Explore how you have grown in the first six months of the year. Create a spread that honours the growth you’ve experienced.

Oracle
What is growing within you? What is growing around you? What needs more attention so that it can grow? What do you want to grow less of? More of?

As always, do whatever you feel inspired to do! Use what you have! Create in anyway you are inspired to create! Enjoy! And have a great week!

As Seen In:
 
Art Journal Summer School – STARTS JULY 1
Ever After 2017 – STARTS JULY 1 Use code MAGIC2017 to get early bird pricing before July 8th!

Friday Five – Middle Age, My Guitar, Roasted Red Pepper Tapenade

Welcome to this week’s edition of Friday Five! Five things that are rocking my poptarts! Good things. Moving things. Things that restore my faith in humanity, or my faith in myself. Artsy things! Nerdy things! ALL THE LOVELY THINGS!* If you’d like to get my blog in your inbox, click here. If you’d rather just get my weekly newsletter (with a round up of my blog posts included in link form + subscriber perks, including discounts), click here.

The links I share in these posts are not affiliate links unless otherwise noted with an asterisk*.

Thing One

Can we talk about a sensitive thing for a second?

I’m aging. The contours of my face are changing. Lines appear that were never there before. I have hot flashes. Like, multitudinous hot flashes. My skin isn’t nearly as supple as it once was. There’s a hair that grows over night out of my chin, and it’s the texture of barbed wire.I have wisdom glitter sprouting all over my head. My face seems to be slowly descending down my neck. Things that used to be pretty firm now flap.

“I ache in the places that I used to play.” Leonard Cohen, man. He knew stuff.

And yet…I feel more beautiful than ever. I feel embodied. I love being in my own skin. I catch sight of myself in a mirror, and I beam back at my reflection. I like to move this body. I am more and more inspired to dance. I want to take up yoga, and even have some community things in my calendar that are designed for beginners so I can actually satisfy that desire.

My relationship with my body has moved out of the realm of self-care deficit & utter neglect to this present realm I live in – this realm of self-love. And I’m not just talking about the warm fuzzy feely kind of self love. I’m talking about the morning hand full of B vitamins + multivitamin. I’m talking about the tincture that lets me sleep without anxiety. I’m talking about the food I give it, the way I adorn it, the choice, over and over again of comfort over anything that pinches or restricts the outrageous jiggling in my generous thighs. I’m talking about slathering it in coconut oil and spritzing it liberally with anything cut through with patchouli.

If you’re a survivour, too, you’ll know something about the kind of hard work it takes to get here.

The body, having been violated, can shut down. We can forget we *have one*. Forget to feed it, forget to tend it with loving care. We can live from our necks up in a way that fosters self-abandonment. We lose touch with our sensuality, our sexuality, with our healthy hunger. We can lose touch with desire.

Therapy has helped. So has the very powerful practice of meeting myself on the page. These commitments to the being known as Effy have borne beautiful fruit in the form of a more intimate relationship with my self in all my parts, including the ones that exist below my neck, that do the tireless work of keeping me anchored to this planet, that send signals like “eat”, “touch”, “move” to my brain in the spirit of trust that I will heed those signals.

There are still holdovers of self-abuse and neglect.

I smoke cigarettes. I can be very sedentary (though less so these days). I do sometimes still forget to eat until the work is done, which sends my body into a state of resentful depletion that requires extra tender loving care to come back from. But these issues are waning. They are becoming less and less prominent in my list of battles I must fight. I am finding myself focusing my attention elsewhere, higher up on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. 

“Eat breakfast before 4 p.m.” is no longer a statement I have to make to myself. “Bathe” is not something I ever need to add to my to do list anymore. Now I find myself jotting down things like “Explore the possibility of Bali.” and “What if you got over your resistance to having a car so you could travel some?”

Self love causes these shifts, and creative practice (plus trauma centered recovery, hello) facilitates self love.

Yes, I am an evangelist. I can’t help myself. I’ve been on the ‘pink cloud‘ of recovery from self-neglect through mixed media art journaling for seven years now, and I want *everyone* to come to a meeting. *Laughs*

I just wanted to tell you.

See this woman? I *love* this woman.

Thing Two

I dusted off my guitar, bought a stand for it so it could live in my living room, got a handful of picks, a battery for my built in pick up/tuner. I bookmarked Nate Savage’sGuitar System” and marched my virtual ass back in there. I started a bookmarks folder called ‘songs to learn’. I filed down the nails on my left hand so I could fret without fretting. I bought a music stand. I got a friend to tune my guitar, established that the strings aren’t yet dead, strummed C, G, Am & E as a way to ‘get back on the bike’, and woo her back to life.

I’ve been practicing enough that callouses are forming. I can bumble my way through “What’s Up” without too much trouble, and next on my list of things to take on is “how to play while standing up and singing at the same time”.

This is a life long dream of mine. I have always been one of those song birds – you know the ones – who can’t do anything without breaking into off key arias. I listen to music all the time, and even used to be a bit of a karaoke queen. I *can* sing passably well, but I’ve always wanted to sing *and* play, so I’m giving myself the gift of *time* in order that I may learn how to do that.

One of these days, I’ll perform at an open mic. It’s on my bucket list. I’ll be sure to get someone to film it when it happens.

Thing Three

Pictures of things with my art on it have started appearing in my social media feed. Dudes, I can’t tell you how wonderfully weird this is.

I’ve been joking on Facebook that I’m going to call the ‘surface design’ arm of my creative business WTF Designs – because it works as “Wild Things Fashion” Designs, but also as WTF! HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?

Who knew I’d be doing this? I didn’t. I really didn’t.

Anyway, several of you have written to ask where you can find the rugs, so here’s the link. I recommend signing up for an account so you can get notifications on sales! Sometimes they have percentages off everything + worldwide free shipping, so it’s worth giving them a little space in your inbox.

I’m thinking about redoing my living room with all things “Spirit Vine“. There’s a rug, throw pillows, wall tapestries, etc. etc. etc. so a room makeover is not out of the question.

Thing Four

Roasted Red Pepper Tapenade is a wonderful garnish on a beautifully seared steak. This is a pretty good recipe, though I like way more roasted red pepper and way less olives. Adjust to suit. You’re welcome!

Thing Five

 

THIS BEARS REPEATING!

Ever After 2017 starts July 1st.

Today is the LAST day you can use your coupon! Use it or lose it!

Art Journal Summer School ALSO Starts on July 1st!

See you there!

And that’s it for this week’s edition of Friday Five! I hope you enjoyed this peek into what’s delighting & inspiring me this week. Have a beautiful weekend and I’ll see you back here soon. <3

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